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Husband secretly visiting strippers for 2 1/2 years?

I am a first timer posting a blog. I need some advice. I recently discovered that my husband has been visiting the same 3 strippers for over 2 1/2 years. I grew suspicious of his late hours at work and I discovered this information by checking his cell phone records. It appears that he was calling these strippers compulsively. He has spent thousands of dollars at the strip joints. He claims that he never had sex with these women, but only got lap dances in which he ejaculated into his pants. He has expressed that he is very sorry and that he will not continue these activities. He says that he did this in order to escape from his worries at work and in life. I am an attractive women, but since discovering this infidelity, i have felt very low in self-esteem. I want to forgive him, but I don’t think that I can get past this. I know that he didn’t cheat on me emotionally, however, his addiction to strip bars made him emotionally and sexually unavailable. What should I do?

First, after two and a half years and thousands of dollars I doubt he was only getting a lap dance! But if you think that he is a good man and that you want to get through this as a couple that you should get some couples therapy. He was obviously dealing with stress and did not feel that he could talk to you about the level of stress in his life. This will mean nothing to hear this from me but I would not let the strippers change how you feel about yourself. This is not an easy situation but if you want your marriage to continue then start by rebuilding the trust and intimacy of your relationship… hopefully soon when he has a bad day at work he can just come home and talk through it with you, like most husbands do… and then maybe you two can learn to be there for each other again… and he will come home for his lap dance best of luck to you… take it slow and allow things to heal… at your pace, not his.

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